It seems like a simple and obvious concept.

“I can only control myself.”

Yet so many people go through life carrying anger, frustration, and a host of other emotions because of their surroundings.

Some might be annoyed with their boss because they do not feel like they are being heard or taken seriously.

Some might be angry with their teammates because they are losing more than the individual would like.

Some might be frustrated with their significant other because their expectation does not match their reality.

Expectation not matching reality is one of the main causes of frustration in life.

You expected to be at a certain spot in life at 30 years old but you are not there.

You expected your husband/wife to fold the laundry on the bed for the past week and it hasn’t been done.

You expected employees to be more productive this past week and the ball was dropped.

Whatever the situation might be, when expectation does not meet reality, frustration is bound to creep in.

How do you control that?

Take control of yourself.

Take stock of the things you do on a daily basis and where you might be passing blame, frustration, anger, etc. onto someone else.

Where you might be letting yourself down and not following through with things.

Where you might be letting yourself slip, mentally, physically, emotionally, and so on.

Now, take a step back and think, deeply, about that transfer of accountability.

Do you notice an opportunity where you can better yourself?

Do you notice an opportunity where you could first understand how YOU can change or adjust instead of passing accountability or blame onto the next person?

Do you notice an opportunity to take ownership of your life?

If not, then you are not looking hard enough because every single person lacks control in one way or another.

We are only in control of ourselves.

Our actions, our reactions, our emotions, our responses, our tone of voice, our productivity…

We are in control.

No one else.

The sooner we realize where we lack control, discipline, and ownership of our lives, the better the opportunity to innovate, adapt, and evolve.

You are only in control of yourself.

I am only in control of myself.

Now, go make yourself better and as a byproduct, your environment and the world around us will begin to become a better place as a result.

Get after it!

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